Health Compendium: Self-Help, Stress and Emergency Situations - FRED

A compendium of the "Akademie für Gesundheit, Sport und Prävention e. V." (Academy for Health, Sport and Prevention), with different contents especially in the field of thinking by Michael Gorsolke Developer of the DU Principle (Fred)

Excerpt from "Die kleine Stresslektüre" Commit GmbH

In order to find a faster solution in personally difficult situations / emergency situations and to define intentions / goals for yourself that are realistic and thus significantly reduce stress and stress reactions, here are a few information and examples as assistance. First of all definitions, so that the following hints can be better understood.

Who is Fred?

Our minds are called Fred. When talking about Fred, in the area of DU-principle / stress reading, it always means our own mind. You can also give your mind a different name!

What are divine intentions / goals?

Intentions and goals that only God could achieve how: Running over water, dematerializing cars in traffic jams, predicting the lottery numbers of the coming draw, reversing the accident or death of a loved one, etc..

What are Imperial Intentions / Patterns of Thought?
What the emperor says is always correct (he thinks!) All those who think differently (cause) and then act differently (effect) than the emperor, probably tell him only once openly and honestly the opinion, from then on no more, because the consequences are too unpleasant (...earlier simply head off). Therefore, many then go into "cover or fog" and tell the emperor that he is right, but think completely differently (as before).

This is the "Ober stings Unter Spiel"..

The emperor is not only head of state, religious leader, head of company, or father of a family, but we are all emperors, sometimes the supreme emperor (family, relationship, head of department, head of school - I determine what is RIGHT and WRONG) and sometimes a "subordinate" (the emperor tells me what is RIGHT and WRONG - as a pupil, child, employee, citizen...). We find ourselves in different emperor levels every day!

Success = Achievement of objectives
The result of success is satisfaction and motivation.

Failure = missed target

The result of failure is frustration, demotivation and stress.

Why is the mind called mind?

Quite simply: The mind is called mind because it should understand. It should understand what my life has to do with me and what I can do to make me feel better..

What is behavior?
Definition: Behavior is the visible and audible effect of my thinking (invisible).

The compelling intention - the greatest stress potential of our time

Definition: An intention that I can only achieve if the other participates and says yes to my goal..

The free intention - no stress potential

Definition: An intention that I can always achieve without the other person having to change his mind..

Help for self-help and analysis

  • Recognize for yourself whether your current intentions / goals are realistic, divine or compelling.
  • Realize and accept the current ACTUAL situation and check what realistic possibilities (goals/intentions) you have to reach your goal.
  • Failure means missing the goal, therefore change your goals/intentions into "realistic goals". Only the change of your goals into realistic goals leads to success.
  • Check whether your goals / intentions are "compelling intentions" or "free intentions". You can only achieve compelling intentions if the other person says yes and participates.
  • Define goals for yourself that you can achieve on your own without other people (children, partners, parents, friends, colleagues, etc.) having to participate and being "jointly responsible".
  • Do not make the stress of others your stress
  • Divide a large "problem" into many small challenges (problems) and set realistic goals for each of these "small" challenges (achievable by you alone!).
  • As soon as Fred gets lost in divine or compelling thought patterns, think "stop Fred" that is the wrong direction. How is the ACTUAL situation and what can I do realistically now... without wishful thinking!

Examples of Divine Intentions / Goals:

  • I wish I could undo the accident that happened...
  • I wish I had stayed there, then I would have …
  •  ... I would have done only this or that differently earlier …
  • ... now my car would have to transform into a helicopter and I could make my appointment on time, despite the traffic jam
  •  ... I wish I knew tomorrow's lottery numbers ...

Intentions force or free? Examples

In order to better understand the polarity, the opposite poles of coercion and free, here are a few examples to illustrate the situation:

  • I want to have dinner with my wife tonight = Mandatory intention Only if my wife also wants to have dinner can I reach the intention.
  • I want to have dinner with my wife tonight, provided she also wants it = free intention I can reach the intention, even if my wife says no, because a possible no is already accepted in the intention.
  • I want my husband not to leave socks lying around anymore in the future = compelling intention Only when the man himself clears away the socks can I achieve the intention.
  • I want to know from my husband why he always leaves the socks lying around, and whether he wants to hurt me with it = Free intention I can always reach this intention, because I only want to get information, without expressing my opinion.
  • I want the customer to buy my product today = compelling intention Only if the customer says yes can I achieve my intention.
  • I want to know from my customer, under which circumstances he buys my product. = Free intention I can always achieve this intention, because the answer "under no circumstances do I buy" is also acceptable.
  • With the free intention the NO of the other is accepted in principle. I can basically check myself and Fred´s intentions. The simple question, the other may say no to what I want and the absolute honesty in answering is very important!

It doesn't work because.... Fred the creative genius

If a failure occurs that is completely normal and the person is asked about the reason, then the following answers are often given:

Salesman: because the pricing policy is bad, because there is not enough information material available, because there is no support from the office staff, etc..

instructor: because all respect is lacking, because the support of the college is lacking, because the curriculum is wrong, etc..

parents: because other things are more important than school, because our well-intentioned advice is not taken seriously, because the child is misbehaving, etc.

Partnership: because she always complains about everything, because he doesn't let you talk to him, because you can't manage the household budget, because he's always on the move, etc..

staff: because the boss is impossible, because the payment is not fair, because the colleagues have no idea and so on..

Manager: because the support program for managers is badly structured, because the boss has no vision, because too many are sawing at his chair, etc..

physician: because patients always only want expensive drugs from the original manufacturer, because they no longer want to accept waiting times, etc.

Now, at the latest, I should notice that the human strategy in the event of failure is always identical and produces a uniform pattern. Failure has nothing to do with me! Fred brings up enormous amounts of energy to prove that it is only the others who are to blame for failure. For this he switches his program to "creativity" so that the reasons for failure are logical and comprehensible and he does not have to fear any consequences. The many "justification and blame talks" that are conducted alone cost an enormous amount of energy and time and cause an enormous amount of stress. Why don't people say in the case of failure: Because I prepared badly, because I didn't listen properly, because I didn't look at it before, because I didn't organize it properly, because I simply forgot it, because I handled it too superficially, etc.?

Being responsible not only for success, but also for failure, ultimately creates much more experiences of success, because I set myself more and more realistic goals with free intentions and this automatically leads to less failure!

If Fred blames the others for the failure, this automatically results in "compelling intentions" or "imperial intentions", because the failure is perceived as a disturbance and Fred wants to eliminate the disturbance.

Only if I use Fred and realize that I am responsible for the failure (taking responsibility) can I accept the current ACTUAL situation and set realistic goals with free intentions to achieve my goals.

Every day we have a lot of small and big goals. Already the thought in the morning in bed "... now I stand up" is one of many goals in the further course of the day. There are certainly no less than 100, usually several 100 goals each day, without us consciously perceiving this, always automatically followed by physical feedback..

target achievement = good feeling - leads to motivation and satisfaction

target failure = bad feeling - leads to dissatisfaction, demotivation and stress

Today's widespread diseases such as burnout or depression (effects) certainly have a lot to do with unrealistic goals and divine intentions and that on a daily basis, if you look in detail at the thought patterns (causes) of those affected.